Tips to cope through liminality
1 Jul 2024

Tips to cope through liminality

Tips to cope through liminality.

In my book I write how liminality is essential to successfully finding direction in the second half of life. Liminality is the space between identities, where your old identity no longer fits and your new identity, who you want to become and how you want to spend your life, isn’t clear yet.

Before you take action to adjust your life in accordance with your true midlife desires, it is necessary to discovery how you arrived in midlife in an unfulfilling place, how you have changed as an individual and to discover what your desires are – because for most people this is unclear, even though what is clear is that things need to change!

This period of reflection can be challenging, and anxiety provoking and it is essential that you don’t rush this process and make decisions focused on you getting out of the discomfort of not knowing who you are and reducing anxiety, rather than well thought out, unrushed decisions make via internal reflection focused on future fulfilment, which take time to work out.

Here are 10 psychological coping skills to help you navigate this testing period of life helping you to not rush this essential process:

Mindfulness and Meditation: Practicing mindfulness can help ground you in the present moment, reducing anxiety about the uncertain future. Meditation can also provide a sense of calm and clarity.

Journaling: Writing down your thoughts, feelings, and experiences can help you make sense of them and gain perspective. It can also serve as a way to track your progress through the liminal period.

Seek Support: Reach out to friends, family, or a therapist for support. Talking to others who understand or empathize with your situation can provide comfort and validation.

Set Small Goals: Break down larger tasks or decisions into smaller, manageable goals. Achieving these smaller goals can provide a sense of accomplishment and progress, even in the midst of uncertainty.

Engage in Self-Care: Take care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. This could involve getting enough sleep, eating healthily, exercising regularly, and engaging in activities that bring you joy and relaxation.

Creativity and Expression: Channel your emotions and experiences into creative outlets such as art, music, writing, or any other form of self-expression. Creativity can be therapeutic and help you explore your feelings in a constructive way.

Stay Flexible: Accept that uncertainty is a natural part of transitions. Practice flexibility and adaptability, being open to new possibilities and willing to adjust your plans as needed.

Focus on What You Can Control: Instead of fixating on things beyond your control, focus on what you can influence or change in your life. This can help you regain a sense of agency and empowerment.

Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind and compassionate toward yourself during this challenging time. Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer to a friend facing a similar situation.

Find Meaning and Purpose: Reflect on your values, interests, and aspirations to find meaning and purpose in the midst of uncertainty. Engage in activities or pursuits that align with your sense of purpose, helping you navigate the liminal period with greater clarity and direction.

Using these skills will help you to focus on your future happiness and help you manage anxiety in the here and now.