10
Jun
2021
The Midlife Passage is Rough!
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The Midlife Passage is Rough – despite what anyone says! I think it’s fair to say that many people feel stuck in the middle of a midlife transition or as it is known more familiarly a midlife crisis. Some people take issue with the use of the word ‘crisis’ saying we need to concentrate on... Read More
5
Apr
2021
Lost at midlife? It’s normal, welcome to the Liminal Space
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Midlife can often be accompanied with a horrible sense of feeling lost. As a psychologist, I understand this as a person being in the ‘liminal space’. The word liminality, is derived from the Latin word limen, meaning threshold. Lost at midlife? welcome to the Liminal Space The Liminal Space is a transitory space, the space... Read More
5
Apr
2021
Death anxiety and the call to adventure…or else!
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In midlife people begin to focus on the limitations of the second half of their life realising that life isn’t forever and often a sense that time is running out can begin to develop. People can enter into a stage of intense existential reappraisal which evokes turbulent struggles within the self and with the external... Read More
4
Apr
2021
Identity Issues at Midlife? I just can’t seem to recognise myself
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Identity Issues at Midlife? An identity crisis can happen at any time during your lifetime particularly when you are confronted with circumstances which challenge your sense of self. Perhaps you no longer see yourself as that person in a business suit, or your work as an engineer or teacher no longer fits or being in... Read More
31
Mar
2021
What is a midlife crisis anyway?
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What is a midlife crisis? Midlife can be a challenging time when a person can feel lost, unsure of which way to turn and that their life is lacking in meaning. Differing paths may present themselves at midlife, but it can be hard to know which one to take without knowing if it will improve... Read More
30
Jul
2018
What’s holding you back?
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Feeling you might be resisting success? Here are 3 possible reasons as to what’s holding you back from being the best and happiest you can be. Marianne Williamson a spiritual leader, author and lecturer once wrote these infamous words (often attributed to Nelson Mandela) “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest... Read More
14
Jun
2018
Healthy narcissism is essential
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It’s time to bring in some healthy narcissism. Most of us only know the term narcissist in a very derogatory sense, often applied to ex partners, ex bosses, rogue surgeons, politicians, world leaders…. Narcissism exists on a spectrum (as with most personality disorders) and those who appear at the far end of the spectrum are... Read More
21
May
2018
Mindful in Midlife
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‘Do you think mindfulness, being mindful in midlife will work for me, will it make me happier and more content?’ my clients often ask. The NHS tells us paying more attention to the present moment and to your own thoughts and feelings can improve mental wellbeing. I’m sure that’s true, but mindfulness and therapy –... Read More
9
May
2018
Looking for vitality in Midlife? Then enter the Fertile Void
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Looking for vitality in Midlife? Often we make decisions too quickly to reduce the anxiety of indecision and inevitably we repeat old patterns in our life. Perhaps you’re fed up in your career so you switch to a competitor when in truth, you ran out of enthusiasm for the job several years ago. Perhaps you... Read More
1
May
2018
How to play in midlife
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How to play in midlife When we were growing up, play was an essential part of life. But many of us forget how to play when we are older, there’s so little time. Many of us don’t even know how to play. Often we don’t realise this until we have our own kids and we... Read More
12
Apr
2018
Hey you single midlifers Stop repeating old relationship patterns!
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Hey you single midlifers Are you in your relationship because you’re afraid of being alone? Despite the increasing divorce rates, many of my close friends are still married, not necessarily happily, but not all are unhappy either. Many of my single friends are reluctant to settle down again and enjoy making their own decisions, having... Read More
5
Apr
2018
Can you think your way out of a midlife crisis?
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Can you think your way out of a midlife crisis? Well the short answer is, no, you can’t. Many clinical psychologists these days are trained in a model of therapy known as Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, or CBT for short, which address’s clients negative thought patterns with the aim of changing them to more supportive thoughts,... Read More