1
Oct
2024
Tips to spice up your sex life in a long term relationship or marriage
10 tips to spice up your sex life in a long term relationship or marriage. By midlife, many people have been with their partners for over 20 years and during that time many couples have stopped having sex altogether. Intimacy and sex can be a valuable addition to a relationship and keeping the spark alive... Read More
15
Sep
2024
Midlife – will you generate or stagnate?
Midlife – will you generate or stagnate? Yes, the title is a bit provocative, but it is based on Erik Erikson’s theory of psychosocial development which includes a stage called “generativity versus stagnation”. This stage is relevant to individuals in midlife (ages 40-65) to help them understand the challenges and opportunities they may be facing... Read More
1
Sep
2024
Is self-care selfish?
Is self-care selfish? Self-care often gets a bad press. It is packaged as selfish and for the faint hearted. Growing up, the reality for midlifers is that many of them were not taught or encouraged to look after their mental health, rest, and prioritise their wellbeing. For this generation, many were encouraged instead to work... Read More
15
Aug
2024
Why are values important?
Why are values important? Values are deeply held beliefs and principles that shape our attitudes, choices, and actions. They serve as a guide for behaviour by providing a framework that helps us determine what is important, meaningful, and ethical in our lives. Perhaps the most important thing to understand about values is that we begin... Read More
1
Aug
2024
How do I get motivated
How can I get motivated? I often hear people say, ‘I don’t know what I want’ or ‘I just can’t get the enthusiasm together to do it’ ‘I can start stuff, but don’t have the energy to finish’. And so, it often is in midlife. Becoming motivated can be a personal journey, as what motivates... Read More
15
Jul
2024
Questions to ask yourself when considering a midlife career change
When considering a midlife career change, it’s crucial to ask yourself a series of introspective questions to ensure that the transition aligns with your values, interests, and long-term goals. When you feel you have the answers to these questions, only then is it advisable to begin to put plans into place for a career change.... Read More
1
Jul
2024
Tips to cope through liminality
Tips to cope through liminality. In my book I write how liminality is essential to successfully finding direction in the second half of life. Liminality is the space between identities, where your old identity no longer fits and your new identity, who you want to become and how you want to spend your life, isn’t... Read More
15
Jun
2024
What is a midlife crisis for men?
What are the main challenges men face in a midlife crisis? Gail Sheehy wrote that the secret to a happy midlife for men was to concentrate on connection, not competition, and I agree. Often connection is a totally neglected part of a man’s life, having been deprioritised by other factors such as work, status and... Read More
3
Jun
2024
Is midlife a rite of passage?
Is midlife a rite of passage? Midlife is often considered a rite of passage because it represents a significant transitional period in an individual’s life. It is a time of reflection, evaluation, and redefinition of one’s identity and purpose. While not all cultures have formalised rituals or ceremonies specifically dedicated to midlife, many individuals experience... Read More
15
May
2024
What is a profound loss?
What is a profound loss? It’s important to understand the nature of a profound loss because it can trigger a midlife crisis, making you question who you are and what you’re doing in the world. It can raise questions such as ‘what is my purpose in life’ and Is this all there is?’. A profound... Read More
1
May
2024
Why you should change career in your fifties
Why you should change career in your fifties. Life’s journey is never linear, and our potential for growth knows no bounds, regardless of age. If you embrace a career change in your 50s, you could make a decision that can transform your life in ways you could have never imagined. Life, they say, begins at... Read More
15
Apr
2024
Midlife – an opportunity or a crisis waiting to happen?
Is midlife an opportunity, or a crisis waiting to happen? There is a commonly held notion that the midlife crisis is something negative or to be feared, nobody knows when or if it is going to strike and its presence might blow up your life. So let me propose instead that the midlife crisis is... Read More